October 20, 2011 8 Comments
I saw this documentary over the weekend. I thought it was going to be an anti-plastic surgery doc, but it turns out to be a pro-beauty mandate doc. Despite having been actively thinking about the issues raised in it, I found it affecting my own self esteem.
You can find the trailer here.
Perhaps I should have known better. The trailer, as I see it, seems to set up the absurdity of mutilating one’s own body with surgery in order to fit an impossible body standard. Although the doc does contain some anti-beauty mandate commentary, it is for the most part an endorsement of botox and plastic surgery.
I’m getting those under-eye lines, and smile lines. I think I look older than I am. YET the reason I focus on these small, totally inconsequential details of my appearance is because I’ve been fed falsehoods that contradict my inner sense of well-being. I’ve learned not to trust my insides when they tell me that these tiny external signs simply point to the fact that I AM ALIVE, and do not say anything negative about me.
In Mary Daly’s Pure Lust, she talks about the effects of sadosociety on women.
“Women who have been thingified, deprived of conscious participation in Be-ing, have trouble believing in the sanctity of women’s “insides”– both their own and those of other women. This doubt extends to spirit, personalty, Self. Within sadosociety this doubt applies first to a woman’s own participation in Be-ing. It extends to the be-ing of all women. Thus the disorder which I shall call *masosadism* is injected into women. To the extent that this injection “takes”, a woman is rendered incapable of moral outrage on her own behalf *as a woman* and on behalf of the race of women. Her outrage has been expropriated. She may experience and be informed about atrocities against women, and yet she is unable to feel sustained rage against the perpetrators of the atrocities, and incapable of acting against the men who are the originators, rulers, and controlling legitimators of the sadostate. Masosadism, then, fixes women.” p60-61
As I say in this comment, “The deprogramming of women who have been so altered is one of the goals of radfeminism (as I see it).”
I’m working on deprogramming myself, and sharing the experience with my sisters. That’s what radical blogs and books and articles are for. The sadosociety is slippery though, and it’s easy to get confused. Also, its messages have become so ingrained that for some it’s a constant struggle to abandon them. At least we’re naming it though. That is a start.