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Comment on Lierre Keith Speaks on Patriarchy and Gender at the Radfem Reboot 2012 Conference by Those Peace-Loving Tranarchists! | You think I just don't understand, but I don't believe you.

Wed, 15 May 2013 00:30:26 +0000

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Comment on On The “Cotton Ceiling”, Rape Culture, and Feministe by druidwinter

druidwinter — Sun, 12 May 2013 17:02:25 +0000

Reblogged this on winterdominatrix and commented:
Being on many adult sites for the past few years, I noticed this, :/
At first, when I told this guy that I do not offer full-service, he attacked me like he would Never Find a hooker would never give him a blow-job for pay again,[like there is none to be found] We [a few of the few,]called him out as a cry baby, butt..this was about the mens.
[sadly, it was my job as a Dominatrix to understand where these needs came from to pay rent & get food.] [ASD people prefer to work for a living, Asperger's is an eccentric journey of autistic people with no sense of gender]
I noticed, the straight men that are fans of the porn- fetish, ‘lesbians that crave cock’ and, lets be honest about this, [otherwise I will not respect you with my high IQ.,]
they have socially entertained & advised straight guys to put on a dress to get in on trans privilege of banging sacred lesbian pussy. They offer cotton-ceiling instructions on ‘how to teach “gay” women how to suck ‘trans-women cock ‘ to get biological females to do as they are told.
Excuse- the muse, but, This is not FEMDOM..Yawn…
When I asked one of these guys about, what real gay women being gay’ and only attracted to the same sex, he flipped out like I insulted him with a transphobic comment.. Mens in sex forums seeking porn are normally quite shy to talk to a real female. I have wishes to only understand them and their motivations. Oh, BTW, Other [our sisters]trans women that questioned this as well, WERE MARGINALIZED!
[We have to protect/respect them for speaking the truth, as well.]

As an adult with Aspergers, I don’t have a gender compass. I ask for exact descriptions and don’t like illogical bullshit.

Comment on On Male Entitlement to Women or “Whose Fault is Patriarchy?” by Rididill

Rididill — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 01:51:40 +0000

I think the idea is that if all women do it collectively, not necessarily all at once but over time, then patriarchy will collapse. Lesbian subcultures are not that politically threatening because of their small size and marginal nature. Well I actually disagree that they aren’t politically threatening, look at all the fuss that’s being kicked up over women only spaces and that applies to lesbian only spaces in the queer community too I believe. But they are small in scale so understandably too small to be in the category of ‘credible threat’ for patriarchy. Same for whether lesbians are more liberated. I’d argue in some ways yes, in other ways no, and in other ways more oppressed. But until critical mass is reached then it won’t make a whole lot of difference.

@mbraaheidner – agree with what you are saying about energy. I would also add something like lowering expectations. Part of what’s so energy-sucking about it all is that women expect men to treat them like equals, and when they don’t it’s so heartbreaking that someone they love could see them that way that it’s infinitely more painful. And so they will delude themselves about the reality of it until it gets so bad that it’s undeniable, or they are exposed to feminist thinking. This never happens with most women, it seems, though I could be wrong…

As for whether it suggests women are responsible for patriarchy, I don’t think so. If any suggestion that the situation could be otherwise if women did something differently means that women are responsible for patriarchy, then what does that mean for feminist activism? If we succeed, that means we were responsible for patriarchy? In my mind, it’s just a certain strategy for collective action. That involves just getting the fuck away from them, rather than staying entirely in their grasp while trying to persuade them. We don’t have much leverage in that persuasion if we are still advantaging them by providing them with their sexual, emotional, and bodily needs.

That is not to say it’s possible for all women to withdraw energy but if those who are privileged enough to be able to do it and start trying to build ways for other women to do it then it could be possible. I don’t doubt, though, that the reaction of men could be extremely dangerous once they realized what was going on. but I do think that it might be a better point from which to state our case than the current situation.

Comment on Ruled Over by a Male Figure (RObaMF) by ptittle

ptittle — Wed, 17 Apr 2013 05:02:02 +0000

You’re right, it’s soooo pervasive. I happened to stop at my neighbours’ house one day, two women living together as housemates. The one’s brother and his wife were there to visit, and the other one had given up her recliner chair, centrally located in the living room, to him. Not to his wife, not ever to any of her or the other’s female friends. Just HIM. Incredible.

Comment on On The “Cotton Ceiling”, Rape Culture, and Feministe by Lesbian BDSM, part 2: Contemporary Lesbian Culture | Liberation Collective

Lesbian BDSM, part 2: Contemporary Lesbian Culture | Liberation Collective — Sat, 30 Mar 2013 23:06:37 +0000

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Comment on Trans Identities are Sacrosanct, but Lesbian Identities are Transphobic by Brunhilda

Brunhilda — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 21:32:26 +0000

OMG! Another bi person! (or openly bi person!). I get it. I mean, to me (and for me, and who I want in bed) , bi means woman or man, not something in between.

Comment on an email about slutwalk by asukamiyuke

asukamiyuke — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:23:12 +0000

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Comment on an email about slutwalk by loveangellove

loveangellove — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:22:04 +0000

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Comment on Pornography and Freedom by John Stoltenberg from the book Refusing to be a Man by padawanrfboy

padawanrfboy — Sun, 24 Feb 2013 03:53:33 +0000

I have been meaning to read and learn more about John Stoltenberg Someone I think I will identify with. Thank you for the post Smash. Edward

Comment on On Male Entitlement to Women or “Whose Fault is Patriarchy?” by padawanrfboy

padawanrfboy — Sat, 23 Feb 2013 04:14:40 +0000

Okay, I will. Thank you Smash.

Hope all is well!